not anon you replied to, but same, I can see how that interpretation makes sense but I feel like it would alter their relationship and that scene particularly so much that it doesn't make sense to me. When I read it I decided that 'personal experience' meant Justice of Toren going "you're being more of an asshole than usual to my other officers, do you need an erotic massage" and Seivarden going "I'M FINE, SHIP"

(also because aaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAA nooooo)